Tears Are the Proof of Life
"How long will the pain last?" a broken-hearted
mourner asked me.
"All the rest of your life,"
I answered truthfully. No matter how many years pass, we remember.
The loss of a loved one is like a major operation; part of us is removed,
and we have a scar for the rest of our lives.
This doesn't mean that the pain continues at
the same intensity. There is a short while, at first, when we hardly
believe it. It is rather like when we have cut our hand, we see the
blood flowing, but the pain has not yet set in. So when we are bereaved,
there is a short while before the pain hits us. But when it does, it
is massive in its effect. Grief is shattering.
Then the wound is healed, so to speak, the stitches
are taken out….
The scar is still there, and the scar tissue,
too. As the years go by, we manage. But the pain is still there,
not far below the surface. We see a face that looks familiar, hear a
voice that has echoes, see a photograph in someone's album, and it is as though
the knife were in the wound again.
But not so painfully. And mixed with joy,
too. Because remembering a happy time is not all sorrow; it brings back
happiness with it.
"How long will the pain last?"
All the rest of your life. But the thing
to remember is that not only the pain will last, but the blessed memories
as well. Tears are the proof of life. The more love, the more
tears. If this be true, then how could we ever ask that the pain
cease altogether. For then the memory of love would go with it.
The pain of grief is the price we pay for love.
Author Unknown